This one is for my over achievers, my artists, and people who want to be a positive thinker but don’t know how!
So you have solid friends, your relationship with your family leans to the healthy side, and you’re proud of your work. Nothing’s missing, nothing’s wrong.
But for some reason, when you pass certain people on the street, you find yourself wishing you could be like them. “Gosh, what I’d do if I had that person’s energy.”
It’s like they figured out the secret that no one else knows.
Answers Ahead!
Well, I’m happy to tell you that you’ve come to the right place. I found the answer years ago, and it’s not scouring your memory to understand every traumatic event you’ve experienced.
In fact, it’s the simplest and most repeated mantra on the planet: think positively!
Get my workbook with the full exercise and 90 day challenge here!
My Story
In the fall during the pandemic, I made the decision to be nicer to myself. My self-help deep dive had already started, and I learned all of my important numbers and letters. I understood myself a lot better, and observing the way I interacted with people gave me clarity I hadn’t had before.
Yet while I got to know myself, I noticed that I engaged in a lot of negative self-talk. Negative self-talk is any conversation you have with yourself that feels less than kind. Anything from “I’m so stupid” to “This is not my best work.”
Think of it this way – if your parents or sibling said it to you, loudly, at a family gathering, would you take offense? Cousins and aunties, uncles and grandparents watching with wide eyes? If your answer is yes, it’s negative self-talk.
Don’t Worry – You’re Fine
Now, this kind of internal conversation is normal. Most of us aren’t used to kind words, so it’s pretty hard to be nice to ourselves all the time.
The most important relationship we have is the one with ourselves. It’s a reflection of what we experience with the world, and it influences all of our interactions with it. My therapist had a great way to help, so we jumped into turning me into a positive thinker.
Here’s How to Do It
Here’s the neuroscience behind this exercise. Our brain creates pathways based on emotions. The stronger the emotion, the stronger the pathway.
When the emotion is triggered, a signal runs into the brain that reignites that pathway, which could be filled with signals that cause you anything from a little worry or overthinking to outright panic. Which causes us to make questionable decisions.
But neuroscientists have figured out the opposite side of the coin: being a positive thinker is 3 to 100 times stronger than being a negative one! And positive thinking naturally yields good emotions. Even casual positivity – like that feeling you get after a good night of sleep and wake up to chirping birds – can replace emotional wounds with repetition.
This exercise helps you practice thinking positively!
How it works:
Every time you catch yourself having a negative thought, replace it with:
- Positive thoughts about yourself
- Positive thoughts about people and the world in general
- Positive thoughts about your future – all surrounding the topic you had the negative thought about
Along with that, write 9 positive affirmations about your life and repeat them morning, noon, and night.
If it sounds like a bit much, you are absolutely right. A good therapist is like a college professor. You’ll hate the amount of work they assign, but if you do it, it works. And I promise, being a bit too positive is far better than being a bit too negative!
The Results
Warning – they are dramatic.
I was lost and didn’t have a plan for my future before this exercise.
By the end of the first month, I had read Rich Dad, Poor Dad, decided to start a business, and committed to moving abroad!
In other words, the seed for Amour Abroad was planted.
Physical Results
I was also fighting the 25 pounds I had gained during the lockdown. 3 months into this exercise I went from casually trying to lose weight to committing one hundred percent!
This was just what happened in the first 90 days. Over the next year, my life changed so dramatically for the better that old habits didn’t fit anymore. Happy became my foundation, and the beautiful spirit inside me began to show her face!
Also, positive thinking seeps into everything. After a while I wasn’t just thinking kindly about myself – I was thinking kindly about everything and everyone!
Final Thoughts
This exercise is awesome, and everyone is unique! Your results could come sooner or later depending on where you are mentally. Just remember to be consistent!
It’s like working out or studying. Keep it up each day and results will come!
Get Started Now!
Write down some positive affirmations about whatever subjects were on your mind while reading. Then follow the instructions!
Your love for your life will skyrocket in just a week. And if you keep it up for 30 days, you’ll unlock a version of yourself that is unrecognizable!
You can do it! I love you!
Buy the Positivity Journal on Etsy for the full exercise with instructions, examples, and a 90 day challenge!
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